Posted in Self care, Self love, Women

5 tips to a more confident YOU❤😊

Most of us struggle with being confident , do you agree ? I think our society has placed importance on so many things that are external (looks, size, how much money you make…) rather than who you are as a person, so it makes it very hard to be content these days. If your focusing on someone’s else’s life & what they have instead of living your own life & making the best of what you have you will always be lacking. Contentment doesn’t mean you don’t strive to better yourself it means that you are content where you are today & are ready for what is to come. I highly believe in doing the work inside yourself first, so the outside reflects. J Cole ( the rapper) has said before ; ” I feel like if you don’t master the inside first, the outside is a waste of time”. Its been a year since I have started this journey of bettering myself & loving who I am; gaining my confidence back, seeing all my good qualities & gifts as a person without having someone validate that & its been so empowering.✨💪🏼

  1. Don’t wait on someone else to cheer you on, clap for yourself!👏🏽 We always want someone to validate us thinking that will make us feel complete or “better” (yes its nice to have people on your side) but do it for yourself first & always. The rest will come when it comes, but never stop believing in yourself.
  2. Affirm yourself; Everyday wake up & tell yourself something you like about yourself or something your proud of that you accomplished. If you can write it down maybe make a list and go back to it ( example: I am funny, I am smart, I am brave …etc)
  3. Stay true to yourself 🖤 Its okay to get ideas or be inspired by others, but don’t forget who you are. Don’t try to fit into a mold that just doesn’t work for you. You are unique & there is only 1 of you so use that to your advantage and don’t let society make you feel some type of way.
  4. Help someone else; Be there for someone else, use your experiences or life lessons to help someone feel less alone or help them navigate through a difficult time. Sometimes when we focus on helping someone else it makes us connect more, it helps us to feel healthier & happier.
  5. Practice gratitude 🙏🏽 Be happy in whatever season your in. If it’s an uncomfortable one try to learn something from it & think of it as a stepping stone instead of looking at it negatively. Some seasons or days are harder than others, so I know it can be hard when maybe financially your not doing well, or your lonely or you feel unmotivated, but those are the times when you need to try your hardest to pick yourself up and say I am grateful for (fill in the blank). Start naming things off even if its people in your life ( kids, mom, dad, best friend, etc..) or make a list of things your grateful on paper or on your phone that way you can go back to it & add more things as time goes on. Trust me when you start doing that you will be surprised at that list!
A smile is the best makeup a girl can wear 😘

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Thanks for reading! I hope these five tips can help someone build their confidence up & remember to be proud of who they are & love themselves inside & out. If you have any other tips feel free to share them below. 😀

Posted in Life, Mom, Self care, Self love, Women

Seasons of Life

When we think of the phrase “Seasons of life” we may think of the word CHANGES which maybe either a positive or negative word for some depending on where you are in your life. It is very important to remember that without change we cannot grow! We all have a sense of fear when life doesn’t go the way we planned it. This is especially true if your a more structured person who loves to have everything planned out. As one of these people ( lol ) who loves a schedule and doesn’t really love change, I have come to realize this is possibly the most uncomfortable time but the best space to grow, set more goals, push through & come out stronger. Every time you look back on your life and see what you have gone through and overcame you start to feel a sense of strength with is very powerful. As a woman we should feel powerful no matter our circumstance whether we are married or single with or without kids pretty much in any situation. When we push through every obstacle you definitely start to have a little more faith in yourself and in your future. On the flip side it can sound or be a little depressing if your saying “my season is the worst , I’ve been struggling you don’t understand” it might feel as though there isn’t anything positive to look forward to, but it is best to remember that every situation is temporary and if you embrace the good parts even if they look small and far fetched. Once you start to focus on those and change your perspective you will start see things differently. I especially feel if your kids ( if your a mom ) see you doing this they will too know that whatever life throws at them they can overcome it, and they will be okay and that is an important lesson for them to learn. Sometimes we keep things bottled up because we are embarrassed of what we are going through but if you maybe reach out to friends , family, even co workers you never know what someone may be going through and you may end up helping each other! I read this quote a while back…

” Never be embarrassed to struggle there is absolutely no shame in working hard to get where you want to be. God turns brokenness into BEAUTY” and it is so very true! If you stay in fear , embarrassed , and depressed you will never be able to achieve your goals because you will stay stuck in that broken mentality. Take some YOU time no matter how busy you are. Find a hobby, exercise, take care and love yourself so that you are prepared to deal with whatever comes 🙂

As a woman and mother it is important to recharge your mind , body and soul. Stay faithful , stay in prayer and remember your good enough to smash your goals big or small and come out of any situation better than you were before. GOD wants to bless you ! Please feel free to comment if you have any tips or helpful outlets that you have used that would help other readers who may be struggling.

Some ideas for self care :

  • A quick bath with some bath bombs, some music or even a book
  • Buying a coffee or tea & taking a quick shopping trip to your favorite store you don’t need to spend hundreds unless you can 😉
  • Playing some worship or upbeat happy music
  • Reading your bible or devotional
  • Taking a walk even around the block
  • Write in your journal

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